I have a friend who, for anonimity's sake, will call "JD". Well, JD's asked me for advice about a certain aspect of dating: What should be expected about the person you're dating when his/her new favorite subject of conversation is talking about everyone that came before JD?

When asked this question, I didn't know what to reply, because my two ex-girlfriends who surpassed their first trimester with me didn't really mention their boyfriends; yet the fact that they didn't doesn't tell me if it was a good idea or not, because: 1. I have no standard for comparison, and 2. JD's date is over 21, and the aforementioned exes of mine weren't.

So I ask anyone who's bored enough to read up to here: Is it a good, bad, or irrelevant sign that your boy/girlfriend decides to give you a VIP tour of his/her past?

After a fire, ashes rebuild the earth;

After darkness, light will come;

After a storm, there's calmness;

After you?

What happens when the fire is so all-consuming that no ashes remain? Where will the light come from if my sun has been eclipsed completely? Or, say, where do you go if the storm happens to destroy everything you've ever had? What do I do, now that what has been, not the center of my life, but my life proper, is gone? Where do I go from here? What can I do?